Now, I realize it’s not as easy as just watching the sunset when you’re feeling down, but that is something my dad has said my whole life. My dad is probably the most positive person you’ll ever meet, and I can count on two fingers the number of times I’ve seen him mad. Growing up, I can remember going through adolescence and just being in a bad mood pretty much every day of my teenage life, but there was my dad, cheering me on and always giving me words of encouragement and sharing some of his Confucius wisdom. One of those was just to watch the sunset. I never really got it before, but now they are words to live by. He was trying to tell me all along, Kel, just relax, and enjoy the simple things in life.
When someone is feeling down, I tell them to go watch the sunset. I say it tongue-in-cheek, I know it’s not that simple, but it got me thinking. Why isn’t it just that simple? Why is it so hard to find someone who is not glued to their phone, engrossed in their work, buried in their computer, consumed by a video game, overwhelmed by life responsibilities? I miss life when it used to be a bit slower, when you could walk outside on a nice summer night and find everyone sitting on their front porches, talking over a cup of coffee for hours. For some of you young folks, talking is the act of communicating face to face using words, actual words, not abbreviations, LOL!
My husband and I love to have breakfast out on our deck, no phones, no work talk. Just us, enjoying the fresh air and really being in the moment that things are just slow for a minute. When we were on our honeymoon in Jamaica, every single day he would say “look around us, let’s just take this in so we don’t forget it.” That was probably the best I ever was at being in the moment. We rarely had our phones with us, and we really just enjoyed our beautiful surroundings and just being with each other. How often are you really in the moment? When I see pictures of people who are on vacation, post after post about what a great time they’re having, I can’t help but wonder how much in the moment they really are? Can you really be in the moment when you’re worried about posting something on social media? Are you really having a great time when you can’t wait to jump online to tell everyone what a great time you’re having? Go be with your family, enjoy them. I can promise you that they will remember the truly “in the moment” moments you have more than that important post you had to get out to everyone. Do you remember when people would come home from vacation and show all their pictures and tell you all about it at once? I miss the good old days.
If it’s been a while for you, please take some time to be in the moment. Sit on the floor with your kids, without your phone next to you. Take the time to enjoy the beautiful outdoors and not worry about checking in on Facebook or seeing what everyone is up to. Time seems to slow down a bit when you can just relax and enjoy things as they’re happening. It’s easy to look forward to vacations, the weekend, to something, anything that is coming up. But what are you missing today?
Have a great week everyone, and enjoy that sunset!