I’ve said it through many of my posts, my parents gave me a lot of good advice as a I was growing up. My dad was, and is, such a positive energy and was always giving me inspiration saying books with inscriptions like the one you see above. That was 17 years ago, and it still took many, many years before I was able to stop being one of those darn drains.
In recent posts, I’ve focused a lot on negativity and how detrimental it can be to our health and overall well being. It got me thinking about, and observing, those all around me…at the store, walking down the street, at my kids’ schools, online. The things that start out as the most seemingly innocent questions turn into a battle of “how could you think (fill in the blank here)”. It doesn’t matter the subject, people are just divided. No worries, this is not going to be some religious or political rant. You will never hear that from me. That being said, let’s talk about religion and politics, shall we? Isn’t that what we always heard growing up, that religion and politics were the only safe subjects that we could all agree on? Maybe I have that backwards. Actually, from where I stand, there is not one subject that is safe anymore. Last year at Halloween, I ran into a girl I know and asked, “How was trick-or-tricking for your daughters?” She went off on how much candy they got and she just wanted to throw it all away because it’s just so ridiculous. Ok, then.
Just for fun, go up to a perfect stranger and tell them you voted for Donald Trump. Or Hilary Clinton. Or Big Bird. Go tell someone you are Catholic, or Protestant. Shout from the rooftops that you think guns should be banned, or that you are teaching your 5-year-old how to safely handle a gun. Whatever side you fall on, if it differs from those around you, you are going to hear how wrong you are. You are going to hear, “How could you this or that?” and it may or may not be followed by a bunch of @#$% expletives! I naively thought this was limited to the main hot buttons, religion, politics, healthcare. Apparently, if you have an opinion on whether or not diabetes will ever be cured, that will get you in trouble too.
A girl recently posted a seemingly innocent question, “Am I the only one who thinks diabetes will never be cured?”
Big Pharma. Conspiracy. Fools. Oh, sorry, I’m just throwing out some of the words that started flying about. The support group administrator finally had to disable commenting on the post and had to remind everyone that first and foremost this is a support group and that debates could be taken to another forum. The point is, I don’t know how or when opinions became open season to attack someone. If you fall on a different side than me, well gosh darnit, that’s okay, even though you’re wrong (couldn’t pass that one up)! I’ve actually heard people say such nonsense as they don’t think they’d get along with so and so because they are a democrat, or a republican. We’ve so easily become a society that can’t see past someone’s opinion and judge their entire character based on a few assumptions. How sad. The more I see all this happening, the easier it is for me to be a fountain. Who on earth wants to walk around mad about something all the time? Can’t we have adult conversations about why we feel certain ways and try to see where others are coming from? We may learn a thing or two. We are all so wrapped up in I’m right and you’re wrong and here’s why. I have friends who fall on both sides of many different debates and I can honestly say I haven’t lost one of them because their beliefs differ from mine.
When I saw the post about diabetes being cured, I did respond. I responded with many of the new advancements I recently learned about at the TypeOneNation Summit, all of which make living with diabetes so much easier, and I am grateful for that. I added that even if there is not a cure in my lifetime, I choose to live in hope every day. Many moms of newly diagnosed children chimed in to say thank you. Imagine, being thanked just for having hope. How far off have we veered that simply being positive is something that is withering away? I started this blog because I want to help others, and I want them to have hope too. Even if you believe there will never be a cure because “there’s too much money in diabetes for big pharmaceutical companies to allow a cure,” what kind of person would say that to a mom who is still trying to process that her child now has a life-threatening condition? When a hot topic debate comes up, do you feel the need to spout off your opinions in such a harsh way and make others feel like they are stupid if they believe something other than what you do? Maybe just try, one time, to have a rational discussion. You may even find that you have more in common with that person than you thought. Or, maybe you’ll find that you are nothing but a drain, just like so many other people. How boring and quite sad. We all have the CHOICE to live every day spreading toxic negativity or being a fountain of hope and positivity.
I choose to be a fountain. How about you?